Popular Musician Reveal How He Sexually Satisfy His Three New Wives
By Temitope Adetunji
Arube Otor, an Isoko highlife musician from Uzere in Delta State, shares insights into his personal life, including his decision to marry four women, and how he plans to manage love, responsibilities, and harmony in his polygamous family.
What led you to marry four women?
I am Arube Otor, widely recognized as Isoko Fela, and I come from Uzere, Isoko South Local Government Area of Delta State. My decision to marry multiple women is inspired by my father, who had three wives. Growing up, I saw how his wives and children lived in unity, where it was impossible to tell who belonged to whom. The family shared everything and supported one another. This experience shaped my belief in multiple marriages and influenced my decision to take on three wives on the same day.
Why marry them all at once?
The reason I chose to marry them on the same day is because of the deep bond they share. These women have a strong connection and mutual respect for each other, which made the decision easier for me. They all support one another, and I felt confident that this unity would help make our family life smoother.
How did you meet them?
I didn’t meet all of them at the same time. I was already married to my first wife when I decided to marry the others. She knew about my intention, and all of the women are familiar with each other. There’s no secrecy in our relationship—it’s all open and honest.
How do you manage your relationships with your wives?
Balancing love and responsibilities among my wives is all about the decisions I make. As an entertainer, my career gives me the freedom to maintain multiple relationships, and once I decide something, I commit to it. I’ve been clear with my first wife: If she truly loves me and wants to stay married to me, she must respect my rules. This clarity has helped maintain peace and understanding between us all.
Are you planning to give them separate living spaces?
No, we live together on the same compound. All four wives stay in my compound, and we share everything. I believe that cohabiting harmoniously under one roof fosters unity and love among us.
How do you ensure fairness and maintain peace among your wives?
I treat each of them with respect and make sure to meet their emotional and personal needs. I strive to be fair and attentive to each one. With God’s help, I manage the household, ensuring that everything is balanced. Even with the little I have, I make sure to share it equitably without burdening anyone.
Do you plan to marry more wives, or are you done?
The wedding ceremony is scheduled for January 19, 2025, at London Base, Uzere Kingdom in Isoko South. As for adding more wives in the future, that will depend on the circumstances, but for now, I am focused on my four wives.
How do you respond to those who criticize your marital choices?
My life is guided by God’s will, not by people’s opinions. If someone disagrees with how I live, they are free to leave me in peace. I don’t let criticism affect my choices.
What message does your choice send about marriage and relationships?
My message to others is simple: follow your heart. If your heart can handle something, then do it. If it can’t, then don’t. If a man decides to marry another wife and his current wife agrees, then there’s no issue. But if she disagrees and the situation becomes unbearable, it’s better to walk away. Everyone should live according to their own principles, without letting others dictate how they should live.
How have your friends reacted to your decision?
Friends’ reactions can be unpredictable, but in our community, polygamy is widely accepted. If you can manage it, it’s not an issue. I once wrote a song that says, ‘If you want to buy a motorbike or marry more wives, don’t tell your friends. Just do it, and if it works out, great. If not, move on.’ I’ve received positive support from my friends about this decision.
Have any religious or community leaders criticized your decision?
No, I haven’t faced any criticism from religious or community leaders.
What do you love about each of your wives?
Each of my wives has qualities that make them unique and special. Some are exceptional in intimacy, others excel in managing the home, while a few are excellent cooks. These are the qualities that attracted me to each of them.
If you could choose just one wife, who would it be?
This is a tough question. I can’t pick just one; all of them are special to me in their own way.
Are you prepared for the emotional and physical demands of a polygamous marriage?
Yes, I believe I am well-prepared to handle both the emotional and physical aspects of a polygamous marriage.
Where are your wives from?
My first wife is from Uzere, while the other three are from Isoko North.
What advice do you have for the younger generation about marriage?
My advice to young women is this: if your husband wants to marry another woman, don’t fight it. A woman’s character plays a huge role in making a marriage work. If your character is good, your husband will stay. If you can’t tolerate the idea of a polygamous marriage, then don’t start it.
To men, if your wife has everything you need, there’s no need to look outside the relationship. Polygamy isn’t for everyone, and it’s important to know your limits before entering such a lifestyle.
Everyone has their own path in life. If you choose to marry multiple wives, make sure you can handle the responsibilities and commitments that come with it.
